If it was a painful break up (maybe you caught your partner cheating and all of such situations), I will suggest you not being friends with your ex until you have healed totally.. This is because the pain and anger in your heart are emotions that are volatile making it really easy to make irrational decisions which you could regret.. The fact that you are still angry with your Ex means that he or she still has a certain effect on you and goes to show that you have not moved on and being friends with the Ex at this point in time makes you vulnerable. So I'll advice you try to avoid the Ex for as long as it takes you to stop being angry with them
If it was an amicable break up (where you both realised it wasn't working and then decided to quit the relationship), and you are certain you don't have feelings for the Ex anymore, its okay to be friends. This is because you are calm and there's no negative emotion brewing in your heart that will affect the clarity of your thoughts.
That being said, we should always take into cognisance the fact that most partners don't like it when we are still in constant contact with an ex... Even if you are sure that you feel nothing for your ex anymore, be sure to reduce communication with him or her when you are ready to get into a fresh relationship that way, you are giving your new relationship a chance while making sure that you don't give your new partner any reason to feel insecure..
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