THANK YOU

I want to say a very big thank you to all that made my 2015 a huge success.. It's been amazing knowing you... I pray and believe 2016 is going to be better... Thank you so much....

HOW TO SPOT AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

There are different forms of abuse.. I'm going to list a few n relate them to relationships.

• Emotional Abuse
• Verbal Abuse
• Physical Abuse

Their name basically sum it up but I'll do a little briefing.

• Emotional abuse is any act or treatment that diminishes one identity, dignity and self worth. These acts include isolation, intimidation, humiliation, verbal assault and so on.
• Verbal abuse just as its name implies involves spoken words... It occurs when words are used to reduce ones self esteem.
• Physical abuse is physical force or violence that results to body injury pain and impairment. It includes battery, assault and inappropriate restraint.

Some people are involved in relationships which are abusive without even knowing it. Here are the signs of an abusive relationship:

• There is constant jealousy
• Your partner always want to be in control
• Your partner has unrealistic expectations
• Your partner tries to isolate you from the public, friends and family
• Your partner blames you for their mistakes
• Your partner makes you feel responsible their feelings
• Your partner is hypersensitive
• Your partner verbally abuses you
• Your partner has sudden mood swings
• Your partner constantly threatens violence

You should know that abusive relationships don't end well... Choose wisely

3 THINGS GIRLS HATE IN A GUY

Hey FAM, I'm so sorry my published posts dropped yesterday... Won't happen again... Today I'm going to be taking about 3 things girls hate in a guy... I'll be sure to make updates regularly.. Did a little survey here and there and came up with this 3...

• THE OVERLY SELF CONSCIOUS GUY: We love that you come out looking all fresh and gentle manly, but pleaseeeeeeee, why would you stay in front of the mirror checking and rechecking and then checking again for god knows what... It creeps the hell outta we ladies... 
• THE TALKATIVE: This is just out rightly annoying... No lady likes it when a guy is talkative. You should know when to just be quiet... Besides, people who talk a lot tend to lie a lot.....
• THE PETTY GUY: We find it irritating when a guy is angry over petty things... Please could you just save your annoyance for more important issues that will definitely arise? The way you guys feel about a nagging lady is the same way we feel about a guy who gets angry over petty things....

It's the last day of the year.... Yeaaaaaaaaaa.... Hope the year has been nice to you....

CANDIDIASIS: CAUSES, SYMPTOMS,TREATMENT and PREVENTION

Today, i am going to be talking about Candidiasis, its causes, symptoms, and treatment. This article is curled from WebMD.

Candidiasis is a fungal infection caused by the overgrowth of a type of yeast called Candida albicans. This yeast is normally found in small amounts in the human body. Certain medications and health issues can cause this yeast to over grow especially in warm moist areas of the body. 

There are several types of Candidiasis:

• If it is found in the mouth or throat, it is referred to as oral candidiasis or thrush.
• If it is found in the genital area, it is known as yeast infection.
• If it affects the skin on the babys bottom area, it is known as diaper rash
• If it enters the blood stream, it is known as invasive candidaisis.

For today's article, we will be talking about yeast infection. Vaginal yeast infection are common with women. Symptoms include:

• Extreme itching in the vagina area.
• Soreness and redness in the vagina area.
• White clumpy vaginal discharge.
• Painful intercourse.

Men too can get a yeast infection and it is common with uncircumsized men. Their symptoms include:

• Rash on the penis
• Itching or burning on the tip of the penis.

Treatment includes certain over the counter medications but be sure to be properly diagnosed before getting the prescribed medication which will often include 150mg fluconazole.
Hope you find this article helpful. For inquiries, sponsored posts and more, feel free to contact me via
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HEALTH TALK WEDNESDAY

Welcome to health talk Wednesday... Came across this picture and decided to share it with you... Will start our health articles in a bit. 

3 THINGS THAT TURN MEN OFF

     This post is for them ladies.... I limited the number to three.... Will keep updating till it gets to about a hundred... Lol.. Guys.. Watch out... I'm coming for you too.. Anyway, there are certain things that are deal breakers.. It might seem small but if left unattended, it could kill your relationship...

•   THE EX FACTOR: Yes... You heard me... Guys totally hate when you constantly talk about your ex.... It is a total turn off... There is a reason he is your ex so try as much possible to keep him there.
  
  
  
• THE CLINGY GIRL FRIEND: He loves you... But please... I'm begging... Have a life outside him..  Show him you can survive when he is not around.... They like that you check up on them n stuff but don't call him by the minute OK...
  

• THE NAGGING BAE: Biko... Ejo... Mbok... Please.... (I don't know the Hausa translation yet) but Please, nobody as in NOBODY likes anyone that nags... Try to bring up issues such that it doesn't always put him in defensive mode... Yea, I know if he has nothing to hide he won't get defensive but when your man has had a very long day at work with his boss pushing him past his limit, then he manages to beat traffic and get home by past 11, the last thing he needs is to welcomed with `where have you been'.... That is the height of selfishness.. So drop it.. Let Not Nagging be part of your new year resolution...

Guys get ready....

HOW TO RUN A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP EFFECTIVELY

Some of us find it really difficult holding a long distance relationship together... I get it.... Its a bit difficult but once the both of you are committed to being together irrespective of the distance, it would work.. Here are some tips on how to keep it fluid...

•Constant Communication: Every relationship needs communication more so a distant one...

•Trust: It takes a trailer load of trust to run a long distance relationship.. You need to trust your partner a whole lot to be able to run a distance relationship

•Commitment: Both you and you partner need to be committed to one another.. Its commitment that actually brings trust.

      Im not going include love because i believe that for you to start a relationship in the first place, there will be a form of attraction between you two which will gradually grow into love or better still you guys fell in love at first sight but however the relationship strts, love is a flavor..
      Drop your comments on how to run a long distance relationship. For inquiries, sponsored posts and more, reach me via
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Phone: 08022388685

INTIMATE TUESDAY: THE SIDE CHICK SYNDROME

         Hi FAM.... How's the last week of the year 2015 treating you? Mine is going a lot better than I thought. Today, I'll be talking about the SIDE CHICK SYNDROME. Everyone at some point must have heard about that phrase. For clarity, I'll give a brief explanation and then start the article proper.

          A side chick is best described as second fiddle. She is an extended part of an intimate relationship where the guy has his first choice (main chick) and then has her as a form of back up for when the main chick isn't around. Most times, the side chick knows she isn't the Guy's top priority but continues to be there for reasons I'll shed more light on. Personally, I don't get why a girl would accept to be second  fiddle but that's just me.. I did a little questionnaire and was able to draw up conclusions based on the answers most people gave.
         A girl is likely to be side chick for the following reasons :

1. INFERIORITY COMPLEX: Everyone has a boy friend and she has to have one to irrespective of what the person is willing to offer.
2. FEAR OF SINGLE HOOD: By single hood, i am referring to not being in a relationship. Some girls cannot just stand the idea of not being in a relationship. They want to be associated with someone and won't mind being second fiddle if it satisfies that urge.
3. MATERIAL BENEFITS: Those that fall into this category are best known as friends with benefits. They aren't in a committed relationship but won't hesitate to go running at the guys beck and call just for what they are going to get in return.
4. IGNORANCE: Some girls genuinely do not know that they are side chicks. They assume they are in a committed relationship with the guy in question not knowing that he has someone else somewhere and is being with them because the person isn't available. This is the case on most long distance relationships.
5. ASSUMPTIONS: Some people think that they can change others. The side chick assumes that if she sticks around long enough, the guy will finally fall in love with her and end his relationship with his main chick.
6. LOW SELF ESTEEM: When a girl has a low self esteem, she tends to accept whatever comes her way especially in commitment issues. She thinks the guy is doing her a favour by showing interest in her hence the fear of confronting him when she finally finds out she's the side chick.

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BAREFACE MONDAY

Those who know me on a personal basis will affirm that I rarely wear make up.. This is me most of the time, Except when I get my hair done... Thoughts on this....

HEARTBREAK: THE DEFINITION 2

    My previous post talked about how most people, especially the female folks, react when their heart is broken. Today I'll be talking about the other different ways people, mostly men, react to heartbreak.

     There are those who go into something I would like to call denial. They just act like it never happened. They get up and go about their daily activities with no form of emotional breakdown whatsoever. Then we have those that get all revengeful, scheming on how to get back at the person that hurt them. There's also those that just self destruct. They drink, smoke, make out with anyone who catches their fancy and offers any form of sympathy.
    Whichever form your reaction takes, especially when you try to mask it, there is always that moment of truth.. That moment when you cant lie to yourself.. That time when the pain hits you so hard that you cant deny the fact that you have been hurt real bad. It may be when you are taking your bathe, when you are just about to sleep, when you are eating but mostly when you are alone or when you hear songs with the most amazing love lyrics or when you come across something that reminds you of your partner or current state.
    After a while, you get used to the pain.. You tell yourself the truth - that you have to move on. Then and only then does healing start.

RESILIENCE

No matter how mean you think life is, there is always a reason to dust yourself up and work towards being a better you... Believe in yourself and work hard andeverything will definitely be sorted out.. Happy sunday Fam....

HEARTBREAK: THE DEFINITION

     According to Merriam Webster, heartbreak is a strong feeling of sadness, disappointment etc. Heart break could be caused by the death of a loved one, broken trust from friends and family alike, break up and the loss of any form of relationship in which emotions are invested..
      For this article, i will be talking about heartbreak caused by BREAK UP. This is because there is no dictionary that can fully capture in words the pain felt when ones heart is broken. I am saying this because I have felt that pain and i know what it is like.. I am not ashamed or afraid to make references to my personal experience because its all part of the growing process.
     When you are heartbroken you are literally empty inside... Yea you have blood flowing and all your organs in their positions functioning normally but you just feel numb inside. You don't want to eat, you don't want to talk to anybody... You practically just want to cry, sleep, cry, sleep and then cry some more.... It gets worse when you are alone because then, you will be tempted to reach out to the person that is causing that pain.. All you think about is talking to the guy or girl as the case maybe... It's as if you are dependent on your partner for air and appetite but sadly your partner is MIA.. When you try to satisfy the craving by calling or texting your significant other, the result is usually shocking... It either silence or one extremely rude reply that will break you down even further... To be continued.....

About Yesterday

    Hey FAM... How's it going? I'm so sorry I could post yesterday.. There was a lot going on that by the end of the day, before I could publish this post, I had gone to far away dreamland.
   I spent the early hours baking... That is something I love doing... Ohhhh.... I haven't talked about what my hobbies are right? Here we go.... I love cooking... It gives me sooooo much fulfillment seeing that look of satisfaction on the those that have had the pleasure of eating what I made, and I love dancing.. I will have to upload videos of me dancing just to flaunt my skills (lol)

I bake also... Here's a sneek peek of some of the cakes I've made... Yes.. They taste as good as they look... Pls overlook the picture quality... It will get better with time... See you in a bit....

Christ... The Reason for the Season

      Yeaaaaaaaaa.... It's my favourite time of the year... Its the marking of the birth of the Only Person that Loves me in the true context of the word...
      I wish you a Merry Christmas... Will be back to let you all know how I spent my day.. Till then Ciao....

Diary of a heart broken girl 1

    This is my very first attempt at blogging. So here's the drill. I'm going to talk about me.. My relationships,my fears, my achievements and stuffs like that... Other articles will definitely come in after a while but the plan is to make you get to know me and relate to my story. Once thats achieved, every other thing will fall in place perfectly.
      I do not understand why some people are really lucky with relationships and others are not. It baffles me and gives me sleepless nights(Not like I'm jealous or anything).. Well, here's the thing....
       I've never been lucky with relationships (that's if luck is the right word to use). Partly because i'm a helpless romantic, partly cos the guys in question are not built to handle what I offer and lastly cos they are boys as in they look like men but think like boys..

    After two painful heartbreaks, I've decided to stay clear guys for a bit and focus on other stuffs..  I know y'll be asking what exactly went wrong and how I ended up like this, not to worry. I'll give a detailed explanation as to why I made the decision, but for now, it is past 1am at this side of the world, and a girl needs her beauty sleep.... See ya in a bit.. Sweet dreams...