IS IT OKAY TO TAKE BACK A CHEATING PARTNER?

      I get the “the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know" and the “men are polygamous by nature, it is in their nature to cheat" speech each time I ask questions like this.. And the touchy part is that the speech comes from the female school of thought..
     I usually say men cheat cos there is someone somewhere willing to cheat with them but sometimes, the person he is cheating with doesn't even know there is anybody in his life to start with.. It seems like I am shifting all the blame to the guys but the truth is most times, ladies would tell a guy who is asking her out that she has a boyfriend.. So the guy already knows that there is someone in her life.. Guys on the other hand would either say “i just broke up" or “the relationship is not headed anywhere" or some other bullshit their brain comes up with at that particular moment (forgive my manners)..
      The question of whether you should take back a cheating spouse or not is best answered by the persons in the relationship themselves.. You are the one there.. You understand your spouse better than anyone else. I am saying this because most of the people that would advice you to quit would probably stay in the relationship if the tables get turned with the excuse that men are polygamous in nature.
    Furthermore, If I am asked what I would do if my man cheats on me and wants the relationship to continue, I would say “there are certain situations that I can't categorically state how I would react until I am faced with the reality of that situation".. That's the truth.. So whether you decide to take back a cheating spouse or not depends on you. The only thing I would say here is that you think objectively and logically.. Keep love at a distance and face facts because sometimes, love clouds one's judgement.. Always remember that if you make him/her feel like you will always forgive him/her, you would start to be taken for granted and a mistake made more than twice is usually made out of nonchalance..
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LADIES DESK: IS IT OKAY TO DATE A YOUNGER GUY

Well.. Hmmmm... This is quite touchy... I've heard a lot of ladies say they can't... I say never say never...
Personally, I don't have a problem dating someone younger than I am... Its not so much the age as it is what he has upstairs... You could meet someone who is 10 years older than you are and the person doesn't understand the concept of loyalty, love, communication and every other thing that sums up the relationship institution.. On the other hand, you could meet someone 7 years younger than you who understands what it takes to run a relationship and tell me you would give that up simply cos he is younger than you are... Well I won't.... Not like its desperation or anything of the sort.. It just goes to show that you could actually find love anywhere..
As long as you are able to understand that he is a man and treat him as such, it should work... I don't mean younger guys who are still playing around.. I mean younger guys who are actually ready for something serious... I'm sure you all know what I mean.. Accord him respect and try not to bruise his ego, with that, everything should work out just fine.
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DIARY OF A BROKEN HEARTED GIRL: 5

The great shocker she received was one that would be in her mind for a very long time.. How could he.. Let me paint a clear picture.. Maybe you will understand.. Imagine waking up one morning with happiness and gladness in your heart.You say your prayers and then decide that facebook is the next thing to check.. And then on your wall you see a picture of your boyfriend of over 2 years with a girl and the caption “hubby of life" (You all know how face book is.. If your friend gets tagged in a picture, it would inevitably show on your wall..)... That is exactly what hit her.. She is all shades of confused.. Like that was not enough, she decides to go check out the taggers page only to realize more pictures, only this time, there is a child in picture.. Not a baby or a toddler but an 10/11 year old child.. She understood the full meaning of the word devastated... She kept hoping it was a sick joke or something.. But alas, it was the end of her “oh so beautiful" relationship... Where would she start from.. Another two and a half years gone... What exactly is going on.. Over 5 years gone and nothing to show for it and someone somewhere would say true love exists.. Hmmm...
To be continued..
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I AM BACK

Hey FAM... Sorry for the long silence and all.. From Friday, regular posts continue... Thanks for all the messages and all that kept coming in.. I really appreciate..

DIARY OF A BROKEN HEARTED GIRL4

There was a whole lot of drama going on in her life at that particular moment... She wanted out so badly that she was willing to do anything.. Finally, she moved on... Moved into another relationship before her heart was totally healed... She knew it was wrong... She knew it was a rebound relationship but she wanted out so bad that she looked past what she knew was right.. She just kept pushing and fighting to get out that she forgot that she was suppose to analyze things.. She didn't necessarily forget to think I guess.. She just refused to do so...
It was all rosy until he had to leave to serve his fatherland... That was when she started having the intuition that something wasn't right... She ignored it.. She doubted herself and that was a terrible MISTAKE.... She knew her intuitions never lied... She knew better than to doubt herself but she did it anyway... She did what most girls do... Refuse to accept the truth... She just wanted to see it work sooo bad that she started second guessing herself.. The signs were there... The handwriting was bold but she decided not to take the cue.... A year passed and things seemed to normalize so she thought doubting herself was the right thing to do... Eighteen months down the line and they both had plans of settling down if everything went well.  She was happy.... She was content but she had doubts... She didn't understand why she had doubts but she had them anyway... She thought she had met THE ONE... So she pushed every other guy away... She focused on just him...
Fortunately, there was this heavy feeling in her heart that things could go wrong..  There was this constant fear of “loosing him"... It was overwhelming sometimes so she just had it at the back of her mind that there was a chance that things won't go as smoothly as she thought it would... Things seemed to be going great until exactly 2years and 6months into the relationship.... She got the GREAT SHOCKER... That's what she calls it when narrating the story to her friends....

WIFING BEFORE YOU ARE WIVED....

Let me explain wifing... It is an act where a lady keeps performing roles that should be reserved for her husband to a guy who isn't her husband... A lot of girls be giving guys privileges that they shouldn't have all in the name of dating... Your boyfriend is not your husband... Your fiance isn't your husband... So why would you be performing wifely duties for him..

You cook for him.. You do his laundry... You warm his bed.. You abort your children because he says he is not ready for a family.. You put up with a whole lot of crap because he is your boyfriend... Then he leaves you broken and you still do the same merry go round game with the next guy that comes around only this time, you decide to play smart and try to hold him down with a pregnancy... How stupid can you get???
I hear people say you have to fight for what is yours... Who told you that crap? That is all bullshit... What happens to the phrase “ he who finds a good wife findeth a good thing....”... You are suppose to be working on being a virtuous woman and you busy jumping around and giving yourself on credit to people who do not deserve it... Are you not tired? You have been through the same thing over and over and over again and you are still doing the same thing.. Its time for ladies to sit back and take a really good look at their life... Figure out stuffs for ourselves and realize that if we keep doing the same thing, we will always get the same result... We all need to realize that we can't keep being taken for granted... We should have respect for our body and realize that no matter how much wifing we do, we guy force a guy to commit if he does not want to.

IS IT OKAY TO BE FRIENDS WITH MY EX

This is a very tricky topic... Being friends with an Ex is a very delicate issue and if not handled well could cost you a lot.. Each time I'm asked if its okay to be friends with one's ex, I usually say yes and no... I'll give my reasons...

If it was a painful break up (maybe you caught your partner cheating and all of such situations), I will suggest you not being friends with your ex until you have healed totally.. This is because the pain and anger in your heart are emotions that are volatile making it really easy to make irrational decisions which you could regret.. The fact that you are still angry with your Ex means that he or she still has a certain effect on you and goes to show that you have not moved on and being friends with the Ex at this point in time makes you vulnerable. So I'll advice you try to avoid the Ex for as long as it takes you to stop being angry with them
If it was an amicable break up (where you both realised it wasn't working and then decided to quit the relationship), and you are certain you don't have feelings for the Ex anymore, its okay to be friends. This is because you are calm and there's no negative emotion brewing in your heart that will affect the clarity of your thoughts.
That being said, we should always take into cognisance the fact that most partners don't like it when we are still in constant contact with an ex... Even if you are sure that you feel nothing for your ex anymore, be sure to reduce communication with him or her when you are ready to get into a fresh relationship that way, you are giving your new relationship a chance while making sure that you don't give your new partner any reason to feel insecure..